What exactly is the phenomenon called “LOVE”?

Hola Amigos,

Espero que estes bien (that’s “I hope you all are doing fine”)

Well, Scientists do know what it is, a mere combination of biochemicals in brain. But here is the confusion if love is love what is lust? Some people say there are different forms of love, someone can fall in love by a deepest 3o min conversation and 6 second of staring into each other’s eyes. That’s quite thoughtful. I have never tried it, but I tried connecting and what are the consequences of having a straight 30 min detail orientated deepest conversation with a stranger and yet in the next phases you get bored. Oh did I mention that it was on Facebook? so I guess staring is also important, very important. Lust can be a dangerous thing. The moment you want to get as close as possible to an attractive person from the opposite sex, remember it is lust and not love.

To be honest, I have never experience a connection through eyes. I might have find someone confident, I might have develop a friendship but the concept of actually building a long term attachment in your mind just by looking into someone’s eyes, that sounds really magical. Let me tell you what I first fall for, I fall for personalities. I have always misunderstood a part of someone to be whole of him. I have regretted that often. Indeed it has even developed some trust issues in me. I have a story, or stories of different kind of experiences. But I have never found true love, I have come close to it though.

Now a days I have seen people at points where they come so close, they almost get married. It has become so much common to get divorced as soon as you get married, people delete their social media posts after break up. I am quite disappointed on such kind of growing tendency. I am scared that someday it could be me.

Coming back to the phenomenon of love, when I was quite young I guess just few years ago, I use to say I will never get married. Marriage is for fools. I want to become an independent working women. In my journey of life so far, there is one thing I surely have understood, you can pursue and become anything you want to, you can get the freedom at any point of life, but finding true love or a love that would last, it is the most difficult thing to achieve. There are people who would just marry anyone for the sake of marrying, there is someone who would marry for money, someone who was forced to get married, someone who just got married I don’t know maybe in Vegas.

And then there are also people who were left by the only person they ever loved, they end up into a certain type of emptiness, people who once started a journey of love would end up into solitude, people who would still be hopeful, people who have been just inspired from other’s love stories, people who just wants to respond to inner fantasies. It could be billion stories, billion hearts, billion people. Yet somewhere in this world right now there is a person like me who wants the same thing as me. LOVE, an honest one, the one where everything is just smooth, comforting, like home, like loving yourself.

Some great writers have said love is uncertain, flawless, something that makes us connect with romance through music, romance through rains, have I ever wished kissing in rain? yes. Or cuddling under the same blanket with the smell of freshly brewed coffee on winter nights? yes, playing with my hairs softly? yes. Dancing like Govinda (now thats called variety isn’t it).

But what is love anyway? Do I want it or does it really exists? Only time would say. At least there is one love that I would always keep doing and it is none other than self love!!